A male character who identifies as straight, has always identified as straight, and has made it very clear that he is straight is NOT having a “no homo” moment when he sleeps with a woman. He is expressing the sexuality with which he identifies.
A male character who has only ever had sex with women, while his only lasting relationships have been with men, who has canonically checked out men, who has given up on or let go of every female relationship in his life, but won’t let go of a certain man in his life isn’t entirely heterosexual.
1. You seem to be missing a key difference between “romantic/sexual” relationships and “platonic” ones. Technically, Dean’s longest lasting “relationship” of any sort is with Sam. Since I don’t think that’s what you’re advocating for, I’d recommend remembering that platonic relationships and friendships are things that exist and don’t mean someone is sexually invested in the relationship.
2. Dean has made it very clear that he identifies as straight, with repeated statements that he “doesn’t swing that way” and an expression of romantic and sexual feelings only for women. His “checking out of men” is essentially limited to looking at a soldier’s uniform.
3. Hey, you know, maybe Dean will come out as bi one day. I doubt it, since the cast and crew have made it clear that’s not happening, but I suppose it could happen. The post you’re arguing with is how Dean identifies as straight, and therefore should have that label respected, just like everyone else should have their sexuality respected. He’s NOT having a “no-homo” moment sleeping with a woman. He’s NOT “unknowingly in love with Cas and just doesn’t know it yet.”
4. Dean has never been able to hold a romantic or sexual relationship. Period. The longest ever (by a longshot) was with a woman named Lisa whom he seemed to love quite a bit (even if he did do many questionable things and one terrible thing to her, I’d argue that he still loves her). Dean holds onto platonic relationships. Frankly, they’re relationships that are primarily and almost solely used for work at this point, but I will be generous and allow them to be called platonic. There is no romance currently shown in these relationships, because platonic, familial, and friendly relationships are allowed to exist and should be encouraged.
In conclusion: I don’t like seeing “but Dean is SO BI and SO IN LOVE WITH CAS” type things added to my posts, especially posts that were about respecting stated sexuality. I don’t think your response was meant as “so therefore it totally was a ‘no-homo’ moment” but rather a “but…but he really is bi and has feelings for Cas and don’t forget that”, but either way it really doesn’t belong here.
this is such bullshit, you’re disregarding the culture and ENTIRE process of queerbaiting. The writers are the one disregarding his sexuality, which we are not by simply expanding it (or changing it to bi, which, why is that bad?? What hetero character’s sexuality needs to be ardently protected???).
Also, DEAN IS NOT A REAL PERSON. I respect that your statement would be completely accurate if he was, but he’s not and he’s been written with intention. The writers helped to perpetuate characters confusing him and his brother as gay lovers for a laugh, as well putting him in a completely obvious bi-curious situation (remember “he was my gay thing”). And anyone, ANYONE, who ignores the romantic potential between him and castiel are blind, but you are right for one thing, the two will NEVER be in a relationship. Why? Because that is simply TOO GAY for the writers (deny that all you want but it’s fucking true and you know it. If writers had any respect for sexuality they wouldn’t be so fucking awkward when people ask about it, and anyone who protects a hetero characters sexuality so determinedly is obviously insecure and not focused on, ahem, real fucking issues.)
so, ALL THAT (queerbaiting) is to draw in a queer audience- while his sleeping with women is to draw in our heteronormative audience to give them a little something-something (b/c lets be real, those relationships never ever last, ever). AND, wait for it, to assure them our precious dean Winchester isn’t actually gay or bi (which is, by the way, a no-homo!!). Stop preaching this pretentious crap and ignoring how the culture of our media is fucked up and detrimental to the lgbt community and SPN is one prime example of that.
I think I can break your post down into three main ideas, which are as follows:
- Supernatural is queerbaiting
- Supernatural needs more representation
- And representation, on Supernatural, at least, is equal to Dean being bi and Dean and Cas being in a relationship
With that in mind, I will move slowly through those and I hope you can be patient with me.